Terry Hargrave - Restoration Therapy

• Vortrag am 03.05.2016, Klinik Roseneck
• derzeitiger Fokus in US:
  • attachment theory
  • emotional Regulation
  • mindfulness, awareness

therapeutic Approach

1. identify/understand the Pain Cycle
2. help the Client understand the truth
3. indentify, understand und experience the Peace Cycle
4. practice the Four Steps

Basics

• Love → individual identity = being loved
  • I'm unique, worthy, not alone/belong
• Trustworthiness → safety and relationship
  • predictability, openness/authentity/"no secrets", fairness
• "Primary" emotions: Identity and Safety
• Stress from Violation of Love and Trust
• → Pain for the individual → results in "secondary" emotions
  1. acting unloving: Blame (fight) - Shame (flight)
  2. acting unsafe: Control (fight) - Escape/Chaos (flight)
• (midbrain: black/white Response → fight/flight
• Fragen:
  • Was bedeutet das für Sie (Identität)?
  • Was sagt das über die Beziehung (Beziehung)?
  • Was haben Sie gemacht, wenn Sie so behandelt wurden?
  • Was haben Sie über sich selbst gedacht?
• → Feeling unloved/unsafe → Coping
• pain/confusion about identity: ungeliebt, wertlos, alleine, zurückgewiesen, hoffnungslos
• pain/confusion about unsafety: unsicher, hilflos, schuldig, machtlos, verletzt, falsch
• Evolution: look für the threat → look for the negative → confirmation bias about oneself: "I'm unloved"
• pain cycle: emotional Dysregulation:

↱	Feeling unloved unwanted failure	↴
others react/Coping Controlling angry withdraw	← ← ←	Coping withdraw/shame perform/control angry/blame
	Feeling out of control alone unappreciated	↵